Friday Morning (Sabbath) Ponderings…
Filed in Family, Leadership on Mar.26, 2010
Looking back on this week I have to admit that I did not get much of a Sabbath rest last week. So I am confessing this to you to let you know that I am making a recommitment to take a break tomorrow. So here’s what I am thinking about today as I reflect…
- Sarcasm in relationships is a bad thing and something I will write about later. But because I have allowed it between my daughter and myself it is getting in the way of our relationship. This should not be my first choice of communicating with her even if I am teasing. She is learning a bad habit from me and so now she uses it to answer back when I tell her things. Gonna put a stop to it.
- Avery is so much like me it is scary. He has a huge propensity to care but in that he is a little too concerned about people liking him already. It’s not something to worry about now but it is something to watch. He loves to love on the family and people he is close with but I have caught him asking others if they love him. I wonder if he has seen me do this?
- My wife is the type of person, like me, that does not like to spend money (don’t be jealous guys)
. Because of that she says that she does not care if we go on date nights. I am also somewhat of a homebody as well so I’m like “COOL”. But I noticed that when we went on a date last week she was very appreciative and it improved our relationship. Bottom line…. Guys don’t believe everything your wife tells you. Taking her out makes her happy on several different levels. Men, understand courting your wife does not end when you get married it just gets harder. - Charlee already knows how to get me to hold her. And it works every time. I am not around her as much as I like so I am going to take every advantage of this.
- God shows up in big ways and our tax refund is going to pay for Charlees Dr. bills, thank you God… I figured they would but not only will we have enough to take care of the bills but we will have enough that our vacation money this year is covered.
Lastly, I just want to point out something, especially to you husbands and fathers reading this.
- As you see all except the last come from me being an observer and studier of my family. I make observations and record them in my mind. Why? Because we are the leaders of our families. And as a leader we are suppose to recognize the needs and strengths of our family.
For what purpose you say? To help them develop into what God has called them to be. You are the spiritual leader of the family or I would say the Rabbi for them. In your sabbath reflections today may you discover your calling as the ‘Rabbi’ for your family so that you can spend time loving them in the way they need.
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March 26th, 2010 at 9:56 AM
For the past two months my family has attended Oakleaf Curch.I have enjoyed following your blogs since we have been going and I must say most of the comments you make hit home.You never really think about some things until you hear someone else say it.For example “sarcasm” it goes on alot in my home(teasing most of the time) but your right we are setting bad examples.My oldest daughter is 9 and it really upsets her if she thinks someone does not like her.It really scares me that later on she might do things that are not right just to be liked and to be popular.Do you have any suggestions on how we as parents could change this now so it won’t be a problem down the road?Your so right when you say courting your wife gets harder!With 3 children,work and just the everyday hassles sometimes I forget to let her know how important she is to me and do nice things for her.So thanks Jody for this blog because I will do better on these things and be a better husband,father and leader of my family.
March 26th, 2010 at 6:34 PM
Thanks for the encouragement Travis.
Sarcasm is a slippery slope. It’s not necessarily a bad thing but it almost always becomes a way of communication for a lot of folks. The more we use it the more it will replace honest communication with our loved ones. Every time we have a problem with someone we will tend to fall back into using sarcasm to express dislikes. In turn every time we use it the other person resents it and communication breaks down.
The best thing to do is not to use it at all…
March 26th, 2010 at 11:05 PM
Great points on this one Jody. I actually spoke on sarcasm once. It was in the midst of a lesson on being wise with our tongues, using our words wisely. I spoke on sarcasm as something that must be used extremely carefully. It can have some seriously, negative effects on a relationship. Thanks for the reminder and once again, pointing out the practical. Peace.